Modesty-Your Spiritual Act of Worship Part 3
I am not doubting the sincerity of Christian women’s love for Christ, and so I am not saying that those Christian women who dress immodesty are doing it because they hate Christ. But the Bible does not say we are perishing because our lack of love, no, it says we are perishing because of our lack of knowledge:
“My people are destroyed from lack of knowledge. ‘Because you have rejected knowledge, I also reject you as my priests; because you have ignored the law of your God, I also will ignore your children.’” (Hosea 4:6)
Also, when you love someone you have to love that person the way they want and need. For example, if my wife wants to go to a certain restaurant but I take her to the restaurant I like then I have not expressed love toward her. So it is the same with Christ: we have to love Christ the way He wants us to love Him. And the Bible says in John 14:21, “Whoever has my commands and keeps them is the one who loves me.” Christ says if we want to love Him then He wants us to express this love by obeying Him. If you love Christ and want to worship Him you have to do it in spirit and truth. In spirit by living a life that agrees with the Holy Spirit, because we cannot worship Christ when we are grieving the Holy Spirit. And in truth by living according to the truth of the Word of God.
Because preachers do not teach about modesty, and Christian women are not being good role models, nobody really know what modesty is. It really is a lost virtue. To make things worse, Christian ladies are not reading the Bible and obeying it because the Bible clearly talks about modesty. So what is immodest dressing?
Immodesty is a sin—disobedience toward God. I categorize it as a sensual sin in the same class as lust, adultery, and all other sexual-immorality. It is rooted in idolatry and ignorance of God’s Word. Its goal is to satisfy the sinful desires of the flesh instead of the holy desires of the Holy Spirit. It expresses itself through dressing in such a way that it draws attention to one’s body/physical appearance rather than one’s face/countenance; this includes clothes that are: tight, revealing, cut-short, or transparent.
A lot of girls think that since their pants are “not” too tight then they are more holy than non-Christian girls who wear “too” tight pants! Imagine how ridiculous it would sound if a Christian man said: since non-Christians commit adultery, and all type of sexual immorality, but lust is not “that” bad since it is not physical then I am holier than those non-Christians and lust is ok. What you are doing is really comparing your sin to someone else’s sin and saying, “Well, my sin is less sinful than this person’s sin so I am doing pretty good!” If you want to compare yourself to someone should you not compare yourself to a spiritual role model, like our Lord Jesus Christ? Why are you, a saint, comparing yourself to a sinner?
So why is immodest dressing a sin?
1) Because the Bible says so, and the Bible, for the Christian, should be the final authority of what is sin and what is not.
“Therefore I want the men everywhere to pray, lifting up holy hands without anger or disputing. I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God.” (1 Timothy 2:8-10)
”Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewellery or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” (1 Peter 3:3-4)
“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honour God with your bodies.” (1 Corinthians 6:19-20)
The Bible is not saying that you should not wear jewellery, or that you should cover your face, or wrap yourself in a blanket! It is saying that your beauty should come from your godly character and not your physical appearance, remember the definition: modest dressing should draws attention to your face/countenance and not your body/physical appearance.
2) It tempts others to sin. Our Lord, Jesus Christ, said:
Jesus said to his disciples: ‘Things that cause people to stumble are bound to come, but woe to anyone through whom they come. It would be better for them to be thrown into the sea with a millstone tied around their neck than to cause one of these little ones to stumble. So watch yourselves.’” (Luke 17:1-6)
These are harsh words, are they not? What do you think will happen to a person who is thrown into the sea with a millstone tied around their neck? They are harsh words because God takes sin very seriously: after all it did cause Him to send His Son to die on the cross. Here is a video you might like to listen to:
What Guys Think About Modesty:
Imagine you, a daughter of our heavenly Father, causing your brother-in-Christ to sin, to make his spiritual life miserable, to prevent him from focusing on spiritual things, from growing in his relationship with his heavenly Father, and to hinder him from being conforming to the image of our Lord.
3) Like all sins, sensual dressing destroys your relationship with your heavenly Father, it destroys your prayer life, and it destroys your testimony. It also destroys relationships. I wonder how many relationships, how many marriages, would be healed if women truly live by the standards of the Noble Woman of Proverbs 31 rather than just use ‘Proverbs 31’ as their username!
It also robs you of God’s blessings because God cannot entrust you with much if He cannot trust you with little. For example, if you are not being a good example for Christian girls, I doubt He will give you a position as a Sunday school teacher, or a Christian counselor; you can get those positions on your own but it doesn’t mean He placed you there, and His will makes all the difference in the word. I also wonder how many godly Christian men changed their minds about marrying a certain Christian lady because her dressing is immodest.
Most Christian ladies ask by now about immodesty, “How much is too much?” My answer is this:
1) If you are a mature Christian in Christ the last question you ask is, “How much is too much?” I am not condemning you, because when I was a young believer I asked that question about a lot of things. But as I grew in my Christian life I automatically stopped asking that question because my concern was not about when do I cross the line of sin, but about how much more intimate I can be with Christ. And the more intimate we become with Him the farther we become from sin.
In Christianity, sin is not a line that we cross, or an edge we fall off. The Bible says that adultery is not only an action but an attitude of the mind, ie: lust. The Bible says that not only those who murder are liable in court, but if you say to your brother “you fool” then you are in danger of hell. The Christian life is not about doing, but it is about being: you are born-again—you are a new creation. Your new nature is so holy you should not only hate sin but hate going close to it. In Christianity you do not fall off the edge when you fall off the edge, but you fall off when you get so comfortable with sin that you actually start living close to the edge—you sin when you start liking sin.
I remember one time I visited a very popular Christian forum on the Internet and do you know what was the most common question in the “Engagement” section? “How far is too far” when it comes to physical and sexual limits. I was stunned when I read that! I realized everyone asking that question was not even mature enough spiritually to be engaged or get married!
2) To answer your question, here is what the Bible says:
“But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.” (Ephesians 5:3)
God is not only saying that we, Christians, should not sin, but sin should be so far away from our lives that the people around us should not even start questioning if we are sinning or not. So back to your question, “How much is too much?” Not even a hint!